So many intentions and plans simply go astray. If wishing, in and of itself, could only get everything you wanted accomplished. Yet we know it doesn’t. How many times have you said, “this time I am going to make it happen?” And, how many times has it not happened?
Well you’re in good company, because we are all human and we all do it. Or, shall I say we don’t do it. Why? Is it because what we want to accomplish isn’t important or meaningful? Is it because it takes too much effort? No! If it wasn’t important to begin with, you wouldn’t have intended it to begin with. In a world where society and organizations have created this ADHD mentality that we all most follow, we often get so busy with so many things, it’s a wonder we get anything accomplished. We’ve gotten so busy in life we rarely take the time to deepen the awareness and learning around “what got in the way.” We quickly accept the fact that what we wanted didn’t happen and move on to the next thing that is now to of mind.
When we fail to make something we want happen, it is usually because something else got in the way that was “more important” (at least in the moment). Of course priorities do shift and sometimes we need to pay attention to more pressing matters; however, if you find this is happening more and more frequently – it’s time to check out the areas of your life that may need a bit more balancing to allow for you to build your skyscraper.
Another reason for not getting the skyscraper built could be a lack of accountability. Yup! That horrible fourteen-letter word that everyone seems to hate. We often make these blueprints in our heads, or even in our personal journals, but never share these plans with anyone. Oh how clever we’ve become! When we don’t share these plans with others, we don’t have to feel ashamed when we fail. What a vicious cycle huh?
How’s that working for you?
If you’re like most people, you probably beat yourself up over the fact that you intended to do [fill in the blank], but failed – AGAIN! So how do you stop the madness? Get an accountability partner. You see, an accountability partner will hold you responsible for laying the foundation, welding the steel girders and erecting the full skyscraper. And, an accountability partner will help you deepen and forward the learning throughout your journey. Huh?
Well, just getting the thing accomplished is only half the experience. There is sure to be an opportunity to learn more about yourself throughout the process. We can increase our self-awareness around what we did well and what we can perhaps improve on the next time. It’s also a great time to accentuate the amazing work you did, including recognizing the battle you fought against all of those gremlins who tried to keep you paralyzed once again. This is how we grow and evolve as a person.
You may already be thinking, “I don’t have any friends or family members who are savvy enough to hold me accountable or help me source the learning from my journey.” Well, the accountability partner may not be just one person. It may be many people, which could include a skilled coach. You see, a coach has honed powerful skills to help people achieve what they want to accomplish in business and life. One of the most powerful skills we, as coaches, possess is the skill of accountability. We remove judgement from the accountability process and help you track productivity, measure success and recognize the degree of learning.
And why is this so important? So you can repeat the process over and over again … success after success!
Thom Qafzezi is the President and CEO of Molto Crescendo, a professional coaching & development consulting company aimed at amplifying the talents of leaders, teams and organizations. Additionally, Thom is the Co- Founder of It’s Faked Up!™, which enables people to live life aligned to their strengths, values and passions. He takes pride in his abilities to infuse the right blend of solutions to bring about the changes his clients desire. These solutions incorporate Thom’s decades of coaching, professional development, organizational development and organizational psychology expertise.